We all rearrange our sexual histories for the sake of…so many things. But to say outright that agency as a young person in the world of sex is a right, a right that needs protecting, if I am not taking you too far, is a breathtakingly refreshing perspective in this fetishized and prurient environment we all are now wallowing in together. Whew!
I was someone who was both active sexually and a victim of sexual violence at a young age. I am now 67. Consent is still a very important concept in my life to this day. It’s what we loose when we let old men determine “right and wrong.”
And what we know is wrong is what is being passed off as right and acceptable today, by the very people who claim religious moral high ground! Lol. But we know they are wrong. That’s why so many conservatives are prosecuted and convicted for sex crimes (see POTUS). They make us feel like we have to “choose” to sell ourselves for the “opportunity.” The chance at a job, a safe place to sleep, food, and H1B visa, a green card, or to simply not get beaten. But it is no choice. It is coercion. Pure and simple.
And it’s always going to be those without power that are affected - as you note for example, adolescents. We’d only just got to the point of women vaguely feeling it was possibly going to be somewhat okay to maybe report a rape. Even those vague maybes are out the window now. But what was she wearing?… you know the drill. Thanks for sharing your unpleasant experiences, Susie. It’s always helpful to hear that other women have gone through some nasty stuff too.
I look forward to this one. I've seen plenty of the age debate, too. What I haven't seen is what you wrote here, which really should have been clear to me, that it's about having power over women. I don't understand sadism like that, and I don't understand why so many voters who aren't elite seem to cheer on that kind of thing. There's so much of it in politics that I've come to where I don't even enjoy scenes in movies where someone is intimidating someone else, like in mob movies. Kind of the way the Dobbs decision made The Handmaid's Tale hard to watch.
This is the key: “I do not want the price of these fascists’ heads to be women’s and young people’s rights.”
We all rearrange our sexual histories for the sake of…so many things. But to say outright that agency as a young person in the world of sex is a right, a right that needs protecting, if I am not taking you too far, is a breathtakingly refreshing perspective in this fetishized and prurient environment we all are now wallowing in together. Whew!
I was someone who was both active sexually and a victim of sexual violence at a young age. I am now 67. Consent is still a very important concept in my life to this day. It’s what we loose when we let old men determine “right and wrong.”
And what we know is wrong is what is being passed off as right and acceptable today, by the very people who claim religious moral high ground! Lol. But we know they are wrong. That’s why so many conservatives are prosecuted and convicted for sex crimes (see POTUS). They make us feel like we have to “choose” to sell ourselves for the “opportunity.” The chance at a job, a safe place to sleep, food, and H1B visa, a green card, or to simply not get beaten. But it is no choice. It is coercion. Pure and simple.
And it’s always going to be those without power that are affected - as you note for example, adolescents. We’d only just got to the point of women vaguely feeling it was possibly going to be somewhat okay to maybe report a rape. Even those vague maybes are out the window now. But what was she wearing?… you know the drill. Thanks for sharing your unpleasant experiences, Susie. It’s always helpful to hear that other women have gone through some nasty stuff too.
I look forward to this one. I've seen plenty of the age debate, too. What I haven't seen is what you wrote here, which really should have been clear to me, that it's about having power over women. I don't understand sadism like that, and I don't understand why so many voters who aren't elite seem to cheer on that kind of thing. There's so much of it in politics that I've come to where I don't even enjoy scenes in movies where someone is intimidating someone else, like in mob movies. Kind of the way the Dobbs decision made The Handmaid's Tale hard to watch.
Exactly. And I think you weren’t alone in becoming allergic to an otherwise award-winning script!
I'm glad I read the book back in the 90s. I also read 1984 back in... 1984. When it seemed fun.